I’m going to talk to you about fear. I was listening to a mentor of ours, Bob Proctor, don’t know if you know him, but he talks about paradigm shifting, habits and fear. He was sharing a story today on one of my lessons about being on a high dive and being fearful and I thought, this is so funny because we all can’t be that different.
I’ve wanted to write a book for a long time, but I’m fearful of getting the book out there or getting the book done. But, one of the chapters is about me being on a high dive and I can truly still feel some of the fear. When I was young, my dad used to manage a community swimming pool in Central Illinois. We would get to go, my brother and sister and I, we would get to go early hours before the pool even opened and enjoy the swim.
Dad would play with us at times, swim with us at times, and he would teach us on the lower diving board how to dive. Even that, I can remember I was a little afraid to go headfirst into the water. But then one day dad said, “I want you to go to the high dive now and I want you to dive off.” Truly, I can still feel the fear as I put my feet on the cold steel ladder as I began to climb up that high dive.
It was a warm morning, but I started to shiver violently. I got to the top and I just stood way at the back. I didn’t even want to go to the front of the high dive. I had jumped off before, but my fear was just gripping me. He just kept saying, “Come on, you need to come on out to the edge of the diving board.” As I moved out to the edge of the diving board, I just remember the water’s just dripping off of me. I’m cold and I’m shivering. I can even feel my teeth shivering with not so much cold because it was like I said, a beautiful morning, but with fear.
Fear I’d never done it before. Would it hurt? Would I be okay? Could I? I’m going to tell you, my dad was so patient. I wished I could ask him, he’s not here to ask, but I wish I could just ask him how long I stood on that diving board, but I felt like it was for hours and hours, just dripping, dripping, shivering cold. Can I do this? I kept putting my hands up above my head ready to dive, and then I’d stepped back. He would just tell me, “It’s okay. You just need to calm down, take a deep breath and dive in. Just let yourself fall over and dive in.”
Well you know what, I did. I was able to die. Once you go on that high dive, yes there’s a little bit of trepidation as you go up for the second, third, 10th, 20 times. But you know what? The more you do it, the more confident you feel. The fear just kind of seeps away. I’m going to tell you a little analogy. That story is the same about money. And again, I’ve owned my own businesses all my life and almost always, my income has been commissioned.
At times, calling on people or talking to people about what I do has been like climbing that ladder of the high dive. I was so scared at times to pick up the phone. I would shiver violently just thinking, can I do this? Will I say the right thing? Will I know, if they asked me a question, will I know how to answer the question? But, I just really am so passionate about what we’re doing here at Private Banking Concepts in giving security, in giving safety as you’re on top of that high dive, whatever your financial life looks like.
If you need to take the dive or take that leap, we’d love to be here to help you, to mentor and guide you if you would like that. I think about my own life and all of the roads that I have traveled in this journey and I just, again, I have to say I’m super excited about giving people hope in their financial future. Again, we have no idea where this economy is going. We don’t know what tomorrow will bring. We just are thankful and grateful for the gift that we had today. But if we could have some safety and a gift that is guaranteed to be there tomorrow and the next day, and then to also help your family later in life, possibly when you’re not here to help them, would that be of interest to you? If it is, take a look at Private Banking Concepts‘ website. We would just love to just chat with you. Have a great weekend.